Some people say that it hurts, while others report no pain at all. For many, it refers to penetrative vaginal sex. Penetrative vaginal sex can hurt for many reasons, not just due to the loss of virginity. Some people believe that tearing the hymen , a thin layer that often covers the vagina, explains the pain that some people experience when they first have sex. However, not everyone has a hymen, and even when they do, it may not tear during vaginal sex. The pain may instead come from inadequate lubrication, anxiety that causes muscle spasms, or a partner who rushes or is too forceful.
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How to make losing your virginity less painful
Back to Sexual health. When a woman has vaginal sex for the first time, it can be a little painful. You may also have some bleeding, but this isn't always the case. If bleeding happens, it's usually because your hymen has been broken during sexual intercourse. There are things you can do to lessen any pain, such as slow penetration and using a lot of water-based lubrication. Some people find that inserting fingers into the anus before penetration can help.
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First-time sex can be a tricky, scary and confusing thing. For starters, people define "sex" in different ways. It can include vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, and other activities. Maybe you've already learned about sex in school, from friends, from parents, or somewhere online, and maybe you're not ready to have sex yet — which is totally normal.