Sex can be an emotionally-intense experience—no matter how close you are with your sexual partner , the very act involves a degree of vulnerability. You did just see each other naked , after all. And if you've ever found yourself fighting back tears in the breathless aftermath , you're not alone. There are even several terms for the phenomenon: Post-sex crying is also known as postcoital dysphoria PCD , postcoital tristesse "tristesse" is the French word for melancholy or sadness , or more plainly, post-sex blues. But what causes someone to get sad after sex? We asked some experts to break it down for us.
Crying after sex: What to know about post-coital tristesse
You want a naked woman in your bed to be one of two things: horny or satisfied. Nearly half of women have felt unexplainable sadness after sex, the study finds. The good news: Her crying may have nothing to do with you. Although if you do want to sharpen your skills, try the detailed instructions in How to Pleasure a Woman. It could just be a biological reflex to sex. The researchers found that women who had been sexually abused as children were more likely to experience postcoital dysphoria. For these women, sex—even good, consensual sex—could unconsciously trigger fear.
Crying after sex, or post-coital tristesse PCT , is something that many people experience. There are several possible causes. Medical professionals might also refer to this condition as post-coital dysphoria. The general expectation is that following a satisfactory, consensual sexual experience, people will feel relaxed, content, or happy.
And according to sex therapists, there are a number of reasons this emotional response is a completely and totally normal experience. The emotions could come from love, anxiety, vulnerability, excitement, or whatever else you happen to be feeling at the given moment in question—and sometimes those feelings can manifest in a way that's overwhelming, and thus, tear-producing. And even when you're engaging in an act that's completely consensual, it's possible that it can still trigger memories of less-happy experiences that might lead to crying during sex. Because there are so many different factors and potential causes that may feed into your tears, checking in with yourself to introspect about what's going on beneath your emotional surface is key.